Question by Gabrielle ♡: What do you do when your spouse doesn’t seem to be on board with marriage counseling?
My husband and I have had some intense issues and we’ve been fighting a lot lately. I think the toll of having 2 children and no time or money to do anything on top of some pre-existing issues has finally started to impact us both.

I told him that I believe we needed marriage counseling to which he replied “Sure but if work calls then we will have to reschedule”. This is very typical of him “Yes, but. ..” “Sure, but…..” Everything has a “but” attached to it. I told him I’m just asking for TWO hours ONCE a month and why can’t he just say yes he will commit to mending our marriage. He said for me to ask him to do that is asking him to just quit his job and that he can’t say he will always be there because he has to work to keep his family fed. I know there will be times that need to be rescheduled, but at the same time it’s like he is taking this far too lightly and he doesn’t care. All he does is say “Sure, but if work calls…..”

I’m asking for a committed two hours once A MONTH!!! I’m not asking every day, every week, but once a month is all I’m asking. We can go on a Saturday or Sunday but he always tells me “If work calls I have to reschedule it”. I’m about to the point of just screwing the whole notion of trying to repair our relationship because of this kind of thing. Work work work seems to be all he is concerned with. Surely they won’t call him in on that very day every month! He can’t even just say “Yes I’ll go with you to counseling. We will find a way to make it work”. There is always a “Yes, BUT…..”

What do I do here? Is this really work fixing? (I know it is but I feel despaired)
Divorce is not an option for us (and my husband agrees with me on that). But attending myself could be the answer for a while.

Best answer:

Answer by Chad B
Go yourself then, maybe a counselor can help you figure things out and if he isn’t willing to go, then the counselor just might suggest divorce, but you should go and tell him to join you if he cared…..

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